I would take a step back and say Israel is not always the villain that Soap Box likes to think it is.
No that's wrong, Israel is exactly the villain the Soap Box thinks it is, but if you want your apologetics spattered on the windshield of completely obvious rebuttals I suggest you take that up in the dedicated Israel thread.
And if we do a root cause analysis for why it's messy we will quickly find a major contributor for every messy component to be "Israel bombed them recently or is still bombing them". That is certainly true of Iran.
The leadership on all side decided to double down on the hate instead of form a reality coexisting plan.
Not seeing this argument, sorry. Whatever else you can say about Iran and their government, they've actually been remarkably careful about their escalation. At least since the first few days of the current war, which to be fair to them, was the result of an unprovoked decapitation strike against their leadership, and the only reason they responded like that was because they knew they were facing untrustworthy and viciously murderous opponents who would absolutely stoop so low as to launch an unprovoked decapitation strike. Hard to deny the US and Israel are capable of that when the US and Israel factually did do that. They adopted a defense posture that would be resilient to an attack like that, and it worked. That being the case, it's hard to blame them for a plan that only went into effect due to unprovoked aggression designed to topple the entire country.
So you're not really telling the truth when you say "on all side". You're lying and making excuses on behalf of the US and Israel. The only real contribution Iran has made to this conflict is have the temerity to not capitulate instantly. Since the first few days of decentralized groups acting autonomously, their responses have been proportional response. You attack their petroleum facility, they attack US allies petroleum facilities. You attack their nuclear site, they attack Israel's nuclear site, and so on. Literally everything that is happening is an Iranian response to US/Israeli aggression.
Have you seen the US 15-point proposal? It basically demands that Iran must render itself defenseless in exchange for no durable guarantees Iran won't face further aggression. It's not "doubling down on the hate" to reject this proposal because the US and Israel have broken their commitments multiple times, Iran are right to conclude the US and Israel cannot be trusted, and they are right to assume their weapons programs are essential to protect their sovereignty against unprovoked aggression.
I think the only way Iran could be persuaded to deescalate and disarm would be security guarantees provided by another country, of which China is probably the only one that could do it credibly. But China has no desire to be drawn into this situation, so I think that's unlikely. So, we're all stuck with Iranian weapons programs, including their nuclear weapons program, specifically because the US and Israel have shown again and again that they are untrustworthy aggressors who will not abide by their own commitments.
Disagree? Let's ask some of the US's character references. How about Canada and the Kingdom of Denmark? No?
So you can forget this "both sides" nonsense. Iran is a totalitarian terrorist pariah state and they aren't even in the running for being top villain here. They're maybe tied for third with Saudi Arabia.