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  • #12,721
    Thorvard said:
    Well my daughter lost my old Nokona glove. She had been using it for softball the past couple of seasons because she liked it better than other gloves she tried.

    I've had that glove for AGES. After every practice I ask "Have all your stuff? Glove? Bat?" and last week after her practice she was in an especially shitty asshole mood and just said "I always do" while proceeding to complain about having to slide and bunt.

    Lo and behold yesterday at rec team practice "Where's my glove?" Isn't in your bag where it always is? "Uh, nope"

    And it went from "I always put it in my bag" to "I thought I threw it in the car" to "I'm pretty sure I picked it up"

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    I've had that glove so long that I had to save up to spend the $260 to buy it. Checking now that same glove is roughly $500. Not sure I'll be dropping that on a new glove for myself.
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    Arg. That sucks. I just bought my son a Nokona Colt, hoping it's going to last him into High School (he's turning 11 and plays travel).

    Such nice equipment :(
     
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    Little is showing the same school behavioral problems that Big did/does. Wonderful, I don’t have the energy to deal with two neurodiverse kids right now. I was hoping I had more time although the home behavior has become more difficult so not surprising that it is happening in school.
     
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    The school asks if we want them to not-post picture of our kid. They don't really differentiate between sharing with other kids families directly (via email or closed portals) vs. just sharing on Facebook or their public web page. This is frustrating as one of those is distinctly ok with me and the other is not, and the kid is sad she can't share pictures with friends.
     
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  • #12,724
    Cognac said:
    I guess this is as good a time as any. LMC is going to be a Big Sister later this year. So now I need to decide about whether to keep LMC, and go with something else for #2. Or to "promote" LMC to BMC, and shift the LMC title to her little sister.

    It's pretty exciting times for everyone, but Ms Cognac has been so incredibly ill with morning sickness that it's kind hampered the celebrations a little bit over the first few months.

    Personally I'm going through all of the things second-time parents go through: pretty excited, but also how can anything possibly compare to the little person that LMC has become? I have no doubt that the new arrival will get just as much love, if not more because she'll have an older sister to contribute to the pool, but it just seems so very foreign to imagine the household with another little human in it. But we adapted the first time around, and I'm sure we'll adapt this time around as well!
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    Mazel tov. Enjoy your rest now.
     
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    Coriolanus said:
    Hey, does anyone have kids who are hoarders? My kids won't throw anything away, including random scraps of paper with a doodle on it or broken cheap toys they got as a party favor from a birthday party from a few years ago.
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    One of mine. I used to go through his room every couple months and fill a full size garbage bag with stuff to donate or toss. Usually including a couple pounds of rocks he found in the park. Did this half a dozen times and only once did he notice a missing item.

    The other is the complete opposite.
     
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    Little one just started daycare (13 mo) and is doing a gradual entry. But the poor guy is suddenly having separation anxiety (never had it before, but also we've never left him with absolute strangers before). It's so bad that he's thrown up from crying so hard, total of 6 times in the last 2 days that he was in daycare. Mom is stressed beyond belief as is the baby. We both know that this is the right thing to do, but it sure doesn't feel right especially when he's crying so hard before we've even stepped foot inside the classroom. He recognizes his cubby in the hallway and starts saying "no no no no" in his softest "I don't want to be here" voice. It's so cute but heartbreaking.
     
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    Coriolanus said:
    Hey, does anyone have kids who are hoarders? My kids won't throw anything away, including random scraps of paper with a doodle on it or broken cheap toys they got as a party favor from a birthday party from a few years ago.
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    It’s really common with ADHD actually. But so are object permanence issues so we just disappear objects from time to time.
     
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    asbath said:
    Little one just started daycare (13 mo) and is doing a gradual entry. But the poor guy is suddenly having separation anxiety (never had it before, but also we've never left him with absolute strangers before). It's so bad that he's thrown up from crying so hard, total of 6 times in the last 2 days that he was in daycare. Mom is stressed beyond belief as is the baby. We both know that this is the right thing to do, but it sure doesn't feel right especially when he's crying so hard before we've even stepped foot inside the classroom. He recognizes his cubby in the hallway and starts saying "no no no no" in his softest "I don't want to be here" voice. It's so cute but heartbreaking.
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    Kids tend to have 1-3 separation anxiety phases. It's normal and it will pass, and it's still really important that they learn not to just be comfortable around you. The trick is to know in advance exactly when their phase will be and avoiding that, but we're still struggling with the first part of that plan: building a time machine.
     
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    demultiplexer said:
    Kids tend to have 1-3 separation anxiety phases. It's normal and it will pass, and it's still really important that they learn not to just be comfortable around you. The trick is to know in advance exactly when their phase will be and avoiding that, but we're still struggling with the first part of that plan: building a time machine.
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    Lol yeah I hear you. He never really had any separation anxiety until now.... Because he's never been away from his mommy and daddy more than 3-4 times. Even then he was with his grandparents who he sees regularly and has no problems being left with for a good 3-4 hr chunk of time.

    We know it's going to be a rough few weeks while he learns and adjusts to being without us. It's probably harder on us than it is on him, if you ask me.
     
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  • #12,732
    Coriolanus said:
    Aw, shoot. My son found the Nintendo Switch we bought and hid from him. He suspected it for a month, but he snooped in my closet and found the box.
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    I'll take it off your hands if you need to prove any sort of point about how he shouldn't be snooping or something.
     
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    Coppercloud said:
    I'll take it off your hands if you need to prove any sort of point about how he shouldn't be snooping or something.
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    No, we have a point system where if they do their routines, they can trade it for 30 minutes of TV or (now) video game time. I was just hoping it would stsy secret until the youngest start kindergarten this year. We are very strict on screen time typically.
     
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  • #12,736
    Leaping Gnome said:
    Do you think it is a good day care that treats the kids well? What is the kids to adult ratio in the room? Not all of them are great when the parents aren't around...
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    Oh, no, they're great. Both of my kids went there for years and they are amazingly supportive. My son, who is now in 2nd grade, occasionally pops in ay pickup to give his teachers a hug. He's got a goodbye card from one of his teachers at daycare pinned to his door still.

    I am fairly sure it's not the school.
     
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    First soccer practice (of the year). I'm not sure if this soccer coach is a genius or is pushing drills that are a little above the kids' heads. It's community ed, so it's just whatever some random volunteer brings to the table for coaching, but he's being pretty strategic in a great way, if the girls can pick up what he's putting down.

    I can tell you he ruined my kids day when he asked her to pay attention and stop doing cartwheels when he's trying to talk to the team. I can't blame him, in fact I'm happy it's not-me that's asking her to pay attention for a change. But ADHD and anxiety are a real bitch, and we're not starting out the year well.

    Though he did just complement her on defense and that was a good morale boost.
     
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    I need camera suggestions.

    La Petit Sprog wants a camera. I have no problem with this. Le Femme wants La Petit Sprog to have a camera too. This is great.

    The problems: La Femme wants a camera for La Petit Sprog that takes good pictures and has a nice screen on the back that actually is representative of the final product - got the $79 special at Costco, and the screen was crap.

    We also both want a camera that is "just a camera" - we don't mind if it takes videos, but where we draw the line is if it starts having "fun" features like in camera photo editing, stickers, etc. I don't mind if La Petit Sprog starts doodling later, but when she's out and about taking pictures, we want her to take pictures or videos and move on, not take a picture and then spend 30 minutes frying it into something completely unrepresentative of what the original was. She can do that on the computer at home. When we're out we want her involved with the world, not stuck behind a screen.

    Lastly, nothing that requires special software/phones home. I'm looking at you, GoPro.

    Any suggestions?
     
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    Any old point and shoot should do. But for our 4yo we have a really crappy plastic toy camera that has +1 throw resistance. Oh it has stickers and frames but eh who cares, it's about practicing pointing and pressing the button. The large frame and rubberized exterior is fine for that, classic "real" camera's aren't very good for a small child.

    Older kids though, I think I would Ebay something like an old Canon PowerShot:
    View: https://www.reddit.com/r/VintageDigitalCameras/comments/18pk2w3/opinion_on_the_canon_powershot_a590/



    This was shot on a A720 IS, it is so old that it takes 2 NiMH AA's, but at 1/5s it takes for that time, amazing night photos.

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    Sure there is grain and I didn't even hold it horizontal, but it was more than fine for some vacation photos and especially as kids' toy camera.
     
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    w00key said:
    Any old point and shoot should do. But for our 4yo we have a really crappy plastic toy camera that has +1 throw resistance. Oh it has stickers and frames but eh who cares, it's about practicing pointing and pressing the button. The large frame and rubberized exterior is fine for that, classic "real" camera's aren't very good for a small child.

    Older kids though, I think I would Ebay something like an old Canon PowerShot:
    View: https://www.reddit.com/r/VintageDigitalCameras/comments/18pk2w3/opinion_on_the_canon_powershot_a590/



    This was shot on a A720 IS, it is so old that it takes 2 NiMH AA's, but at 1/5s it takes for that time, amazing night photos.

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    Sure there is grain and I didn't even hold it horizontal, but it was more than fine for some vacation photos and especially as kids' toy camera.
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    We basically did the same thing. I had an old Sony digital camera in a box for years and handed it to B on our last trip to Europe. If I didn’t have something laying around, I’d probably just look for something cheap used.
     
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    w00key said:
    Older kids though, I think I would Ebay something like an old Canon PowerShot
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    That's what I did. I gave the older kid a Canon Powershot that had sat in my desk for nearly a decade. Still worked fine. Even the battery. Has to reset the date/time from the default of 2011 :biggreen:

    I explored Polaroid and Fuji Instax as something that would be good for a kid, but they're just too expensive. $1-2 per picture and I knew mine would run through a whole pack in 10 minutes.

    For the younger kid, I ended up getting this:

    https://www.hellobaby-monitor.com/collections/hellobaby-instant-print-camera-for-kids

    She's in kindergarten and loves it. The printouts are not good quality, low rez black and white, but it runs on cheap cash register thermal paper so she can print as many as she wants and it's fine. Came with two rolls which is something like 100 prints.
     
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    ^ me irl = Bandit.

    Little one is almost 3 weeks old. Second round seems... Easier? Yeah sure he still has hidden reflux and hiccup when you lie him flat within an hour after feeding and failing to latch on but it's been there done that. Even the absolute mess of a schedule now, /roll between 1 and 3 hours between feedings, hey dude you were supposed to eat every 4 hours by now okay 😅


    At least we have near infinite parental leave here. The big guy also wants a lot of attention and with two of us we can manage it just fine. With one, no way.

    I did started picking up some tasks that can be done remotely but it's on the bottom of my priority list. Kids first, sleep second.
     
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    ChaoticUnreal said:
    Mine are turning 15 and 12 this year. It just goes so fast.

    My younger cousins that I remember holding when they were just born are now in college.
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    Hey so are our kids. :) We've started pointing out road signs and querying rules-of-the-road with the 15-next-month kid to prepare them for their driving test next year. Crazy part is their Sweet-16 year is also my big 5-0. :)

    Facebook keeps popping up "Remember this from 12+ years ago?" posts and we're looking at them going, "Yeah, I remember that being a year or two ago! How was that 12?!?!"
     
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    Thegn said:
    I need camera suggestions.

    La Petit Sprog wants a camera. I have no problem with this. Le Femme wants La Petit Sprog to have a camera too. This is great.

    The problems: La Femme wants a camera for La Petit Sprog that takes good pictures and has a nice screen on the back that actually is representative of the final product - got the $79 special at Costco, and the screen was crap.

    We also both want a camera that is "just a camera" - we don't mind if it takes videos, but where we draw the line is if it starts having "fun" features like in camera photo editing, stickers, etc. I don't mind if La Petit Sprog starts doodling later, but when she's out and about taking pictures, we want her to take pictures or videos and move on, not take a picture and then spend 30 minutes frying it into something completely unrepresentative of what the original was. She can do that on the computer at home. When we're out we want her involved with the world, not stuck behind a screen.

    Lastly, nothing that requires special software/phones home. I'm looking at you, GoPro.

    Any suggestions?
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    My kid has this.

    https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0BFJ9WY5J?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

    It's pretty good. No fun features, just videos and photos. It's also basically indestructible because it's built like a hard phone case.
     
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