I'm not sure that this counts as shooting oneself in the foot. After all, from the Trump perspective, this is largely about noise and light. I don't think he really has anything to say to the Iranian people, nor do I think Trump's "demands they surrender" are intended for Iranian consumption. Instead, that's all about looking strong while bombing Iranians.
Well, that's not going to do anything good for inflation.
/doubt.
I mean, much like the Pope, killing the Grand Ayotollah doesn't permanently remove anything. Instead it just leaves an empty seat that will soon be filled by, if not his current closest circle, someone close enough to that that the difference is meaningless. There will obviously be a next Grand Ayotollah who will most likely be largely indistinguishable from the previous. And it isn't like simply killing the Grand Ayotollah is going to overthrow the government of Iran; if anything, it will do the opposite*. Not to mention the broader implications of having killed a religious leader.
* The surest way to get internal rebels to rally around a government they despise is to start indiscriminately dropping bombs. Bombing might be useful for destroying military assets, they are not, however, useful for convincing an enemy to surrender.
So, first, I don't think you can assume that all the women don't want a theocracy. I mean, take a look at the Christian Nationalist movement in the United States: plenty of women emphatically do want theocracy. And, as for the population of Iran, you might stand a better chance of being correct, but, frankly, dropping bombs on them isn't likely to convince them of anything.
Holy Islamophobia batman.
Right, because Trump and Netanyahu have a really really clear idea of exactly what they are doing in Iran beyond making things go boom....... sigh Though, I guess that, for many, that's reason enough.