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[url=http://meincmagazine.com/civis/viewtopic.php?p=25760385#p25760385:26ie7jis said:
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[url=http://meincmagazine.com/civis/viewtopic.php?p=25760179#p25760179:26ie7jis said:
skylarjones[/url]":26ie7jis]Someday, China is going to have to follow up on one of it's threats or it will lose face. That's when the shit will hit the fan.
It's one of the curious/stupid features of "face" - if everyone ignores a circumstance that should cause one to lose face, no face is lost. Just because someone does something catastrophically stupid, no face is lost if everyone just scratches their head and says, "what happened? I dunno..."
Which, of course, means that's exactly what happens when everyone is more concerned with saving face than with fixing the problem.
Edit: To put it another way, the only time someone "loses face" is when someone else openly takes note of the face-losing incident. You don't lose face for forgetting to put snow chains on the tires and spinning out on the icy road, you lose face when someone else comments on it.
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The Chinese concept of 'face' is very difficult to grasp by anyone from outside the culture. I've traveled in China extensively for 10 years and lived here for more than 2. I still have little clue about 'face'. But Nekojin's comment: "if everyone just scratches their head and says, "what happened? I dunno..." " rings true with what I have observed. Most of my run-ins with 'face' have been over shopping and asking directions.
In shopping, it seems to be forbidden for a shop to order something for you that isn't currently in stock. It seems to be a loss of face to have not stocked what the customer might want so instead, they always say that what you want does not exist.
When asking questions (especially directions), it is very rare for any Chinese person to say, "I don't know." It is considered less a loss of face to ignore the question or outright lie than to admit a lack of knowledge.
Interestingly enough, my observation is that this condition is greatly ameliorated amongst those who have made an effort to learn Western cultures. I have questioned many English speaking Chinese about this. They acknowledge the truth in the observation and also are able to express the "I don't know" as to why it is this way. Something about these people drove them to explore other ways of being in the world. Whatever the force, the result is that in so doing, they have lost some of their connection to their own native culture.